New Moon, New Beginnings
We all have traits or characteristics that we are not particularly fond of. Personally, forgiveness is not that high on my list of strengths. Someone from my past, with whom I was deeply entwined has been reaching out to me sporadically for a few months. In the spirit of the New Year, I decided to respond to a text. After participating in a spiritual plant medicine journey last weekend I decided to send a very honest question - “ Why do you think we are texting? “ The response I got back was that this person missed our connection. So I sent a simple message, “Let's meet up” and so we did…with no expectations or anger, resentments or projections. What was supposed to be a quick coffee turned into a four-hour dinner. And so it goes…. I walked away with no additional expectations although I am confident we will be in each other's lives in some way moving forward.
We all have within us the “negativity bias, also known as the negativity effect, is the notion that even when of equal intensity, things of a more negative nature (e.g. unpleasant thoughts, emotions, or social interactions; harmful/traumatic events) have a greater effect on one's psychological state and processes than neutral or positive things. In other words, something very positive will generally have less of an impact on a person's behavior and cognition than something equally emotional but negative. The negativity bias has been investigated within many different domains, including impressions and general evaluations; attention, learning, and memory, decision making and risk considerations.
This means we can easily FORGET the good in a relationship ( or former one ) and let the negativity weigh heavily on us.
After a lengthy hug goodnight and a few nice text exchanges, I went to sleep feeling curious … What does this all mean? How do I feel in my heart about this person? and "were my thoughts, feelings, and behaviors about this person and their departure from my life accurate and as the Buddhists say “ right action ?”
I trusted the Universe to sort it out without too much overthinking on my part. Less than six hours later I awoke, clear and light. I should add that I have not woken up this early for a few months now as I have been wrestling with some challenges that were in part self-created and in part the divine order of the Universe in its infinite wisdom. I awoke in a place of space. Sometimes that's the best place to reside, the place of space.
As we enter into this New Aquarius Moon, the first of 2020 on January 24, let's remember that we are reminded to say fluid and go with the flow, we will be invigorated with fresh energy, and leave old energy from the past where it belongs. It’s a powerful time for fresh starts- a chance to step into our light as we may know in our hearts we need an alignment.
Perhaps our new beginnings are easier when we attempt new endings.
Happy New Moon Everyone - may all your dreams come true