The Self in Self Help
Happy New Year Everyone!
Many of you are participating in our 40 Days of Healing Program, and I thank you for sharing this journey with me.
In contrast to the positive emotions of producing Healing Trauma with Yoga, a book that has been placed on the "Best Seller" list, the universe - in it's divine wisdom and as it's continually expressing it's sense of humor - has offered me the opportunity to take my own healing journey to the next level.
In late 2019, someone very close to me was torn away from me by cancer. This loss reopened some wounds that I mistakenly thought were HEALED and forced me on to another accelerated path to healing.
A good friend of mine who is going through a break-up laughed at me one day and said "you binge on self-help YouTube videos, sobriety, meditation and sleep, while I am eating chocolate bars and not getting out of bed". But this is the same friend whom I have seen pick up the pieces, move on and get back in the saddle, so to speak. She gave me some good advice on our walk this morning, which I'd like to share with you - When you have a thought that involves a person or the past (or both), ask yourself "How is this thought serving me?" Another easy way to control thoughts, is to place them in a pink bubble and watch as you let them float away, or put the person or issue on a conveyor belt and watch as they roll out of sight, letting them go.
Despite utilizing all of the tools for healing that I have discovered and outlined in my book, and some new ones as well, I often find myself struggling to not drown in the sea that is my own darkness -- with prevelant obsessive and intrusive thoughts. I know and understand that there are no coincidences in life and nothing happens by accident - and through my continued quest to stay afloat I have found a new and deeper sense of wellness. I am blessed with helpful and kind friends.
What's New? In addition to practicing my "I AM" meditations, I have incorporated the following prayers into my daily routine:
"Dear Universe - I call on my Guides to direct me. Thank you for taking this challenge from me -
Today - Where would you have me go? What would you have me do and what would you have me say to who?"
The Serenity Prayer comes to me spontaneously daily ...
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
I repeat that last line ... 'THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE!'
Those of you who have read my new book know of my own struggles with my mood -- and quite frankly -- mental health. My range is a wide one, and I always remind myself that the pendulum swings equally in both directions. For any of you struggling today - here are some more tips I have incorporated that are helping me stay balanced:
- Sleep - go to sleep early and sleep alot - try going to bed by 10pm and getting a full 8 hours.
- Abstinence from alcohol - this raises your vibration and keeps your head clear to do your healing work. Even if you have no substance dependency issues - this is a great way to start the new year. SOBER.
- YouTube - Daily Positive Affirmations - "I AM" sleeping while they are playing, and I also begin my day with them - a good way to reprogram the subconscious mind.
- Being vulnberable with friends that you trust - sometimes just talking it out is the best medicine - and you receive some good advice too!
- Exercise - but don't overdo it to the point of exhaustion.
- Inversions - every day without fail - turn your world upside down!
Some new things I’ve tried this week - an Ozone sauna, an NAD subcutaneous shot and making future plans I can commit to regradless of who joins in.
While situational depression is often medication and supplement resistant, it can give us much needed jump start into deeper levels of healing.
This Self help has to be self directed, but with each positive action you take, you walk a little closer to being healed ( until the next healing crisis occurs )
Pack a sense of humor wherever you journey and keep stepping forward on your own healing journey.